tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post3626938102163755136..comments2022-01-09T17:43:54.361-07:00Comments on Why the Decadence?: Off BalanceTrucehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02209058113394941723noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-2091723180070213282011-10-11T13:43:09.526-06:002011-10-11T13:43:09.526-06:00I got to know some in the BYU gay community more t...I got to know some in the BYU gay community more than 25 years ago. It was a great time, and I loved being a part of it. Unfortunately I decided the Evergreen approach would work for me, and put myself back in the closet. My advice is don't do that. Take your time, but remember to follow your heart.Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15029797430164876047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-21512800464949919972011-10-11T01:39:32.572-06:002011-10-11T01:39:32.572-06:00Wow... this hit me as something like I could have ...Wow... this hit me as something like I could have written some time these last few days (except for the being sick part, thankfully)!<br /><br />Do go to the USGA!!! Now that I am graduated and away from the opportunity to bury my head in school as an excuse not to confront other aspects of life, I *mourn* that I did not take advantage of getting to know the gay community at BYU.Trevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258097334170692217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-59866022204311835092011-10-10T21:19:42.550-06:002011-10-10T21:19:42.550-06:00I don't think you're as unique as you thin...I don't think you're as unique as you think you are... no offense. Don't get me wrong, you're special and all that jazz, but I know a lot of dudes who have very similar stories and perspectives as you... that's a good thing. My guess is the more vulnerable you allow yourself to be, the more others will open up to you... and who knows you may find someone you can really relate to. Good luck.<br />- Another Provo Guy in a very similar circumstanceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-39826709494845135802011-10-10T19:43:07.976-06:002011-10-10T19:43:07.976-06:00I'd also recommend the BYU group (USGA). I nev...I'd also recommend the BYU group (USGA). I never went since it was formed just after I graduated, but I know a bunch of the people in it and recommend it highly based solely on them.Austin Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819361714135699673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-90616043080663812862011-10-10T19:40:33.876-06:002011-10-10T19:40:33.876-06:00Sulli - I have met about 7, one of these days I...Sulli - I have met about 7, one of these days I'll meet more<br />El Genio - I have some friends that meet with that group, I'm trying to get myself to go.<br />Troy - You came to the same conclusion I did while writing, either we are both right, or we will go down swinging.<br />Dads - One day i'll get thereTrucehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02209058113394941723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-53968363662836421862011-10-10T19:06:58.860-06:002011-10-10T19:06:58.860-06:00One things I can tell you. There is enormous peac...One things I can tell you. There is enormous peace that comes from living on the outside in a manner consistent with how one feels on the inside.<br /><br />The rest of your concerns will work themselves out once that's in place. The white sheep will find the other white sheep among the rainbows.<br /> <br />I also found that the people who I feared wouldn't have accepted the real me at your age were the same ones who ended up turning their back on me when I eventually owned up to the truth. They weren't true friends then and I only wish I hadn't handed them the reigns of my life for far too long.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-84306418140537500812011-10-10T17:37:18.030-06:002011-10-10T17:37:18.030-06:00there's more to your life than just the homose...there's more to your life than just the homosexual aspect right? Talk about your interests. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. You'll be amazed ;-)Saint Jobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187537284190617835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-50875383317260077882011-10-10T17:24:06.740-06:002011-10-10T17:24:06.740-06:00"I'm definitely the white sheep in a rain..."I'm definitely the white sheep in a rainbow flock when it comes to the gay crowd."<br /><br />I'm not sure how accurate that statement can be, especially if you don't know a lot of gay people. I made it through BYU telling myself that I wasn't gay because I wasn't like the stereotypical negative gay image that many church members are so good at portraying. The truth is, there are all sorts of gay people.<br /><br />I think a good place to start (if you haven't already) might be the unofficial group that meets at BYU: http://www.facebook.com/groups/114825138564153/El Geniohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02801064758712821345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8130707396444757705.post-10051789492043434222011-10-10T16:50:11.115-06:002011-10-10T16:50:11.115-06:00How many of the BYU crowd have you met? There is a...How many of the BYU crowd have you met? There is a serious diversity of approaches to the church, many personalities. I think you would find friends amongst the gay BYU crowd. <br /><br />Being around other gay people is a breath of fresh air. Especially being around ones who know where you are coming from with the church.Kileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14598910475787952773noreply@blogger.com